annoD I can't tell you enough, to stand proud and don't letthose comments get to you, eventually your "friends" will get used toyour new look and won't think a thing of it
Very well said, Slinks.
I'm in the same place you're now, annoD. I'm at the point where people are noticing that I'm losing weight and my friends are aware of my sciatica problem and still have to take a lot of crap from them.
An example is one friend, she's 5' tall (literally) and has a very muscular type, so if she goes below 120 pounds, she looks emaciated. I have never, ever teased her about her weight, hey, she looks healthy and is strong! On the other hand I'm 5'3" and every single time we go out to dinner and I put my meds on the table (meds I absolutely NEED for pain) gets all judgemental and says "do you realize that amount of pills can't be healthy for you?" and then goes on and on about that what we ate for dinner is definitively make me win back some pounds, or that "maybe" I'm starting to act like a bulimic, and that I will not get strong just for "jumping around the TV with those lousy workouts I'm doing" and how I should try to go to a Powerplate gym, where she goes instead of training on the bike and how she felt stronger than ever.
Enough is enough!
But I didn't say anything. I just excused myself and left the restaurant.
I know she'll get used to my new self, otherwise, she can find another friend and forget about me.
Now, I'm glad I didn't say anything, you have a phrase in english: "karma is a b****" and my friend was supposed to go on a 250 mile bike ride (divided in 2 days), where you go from the mountains at 30,000 feet height to sea level and she felt miserable in a ride of less than 80 miles. She was depressed and thinking of dropping off the ride, but I just pad her back and told her that whatever she decided it was Ok. Her safety and health are first and if she only does half trip or half of that, it's an accomplishment. I'll be there to support her and give her a ride if she needs to.
Now I wonder where's all the strenght she gained from the powerplate and skip training for almost two weeks, but I don't judge her and know she'll come around, hopefully.
If your friends are a keeper, just give them a chance, if not, let 'em go where they belong...
To set the example is not the main way to influence others; it is the only way. ~A. Einstein